The Disappearing Act

One point in our lives most of us ladies have met the unfortunate act called "THE DISAPPEARING ACT" (TDA). "The disappearing act" is when a person who you were interested in out of nowhere stops calling or texting you or even picking up your calls. We all wonder what happened to this person or why this person stopped communicating with us. I am pretty sure there is a virus that is going around that every guy is catching and  they have developed TDA.

Recently I have met few girls who have complained about this TDA. I for one I am victim of this. I met a guy few months ago who was charming and every girl could dream of meeting. He was wonderful and I was awed by his personality. It's not like I meet horrible people but this is a guy who was straight forward with me from the get go. I was skeptical about him, I told a lot of my friends that I was waiting for the shoe to drop. As weeks went by he proved me wrong, he continued to be as sweet and as caring as the first time I met him. Not until few weeks ago all the calls, texts, skype calls stopped. He disappeared like he never existed. I asked myself what happened or if I dreamed about the whole thing. This is not the first time somebody has pulled a TDA on me the difference with this one is that the other ones I could predict or see them coming but this one had no warning.

A lot of times we girls we start wondering what went wrong or why they disappeared. We seek these answers by calling the person repeatedly for an explanation. The thing with people who pull a TDA is that they never come back to explain to you why they disappeared, if they come they will either lie to you or just not explain at all. Do you want that? And what makes you think that they will not disappear again?  By calling these people over and over again is like giving them control of your happiness. You need to be in control of your happiness, don't let anybody take control of that.

When these people come back some of us are guilty of letting them pretend like they were not gone for a month. Remember those questions we had before of why and how then we forget them. Instead of getting answers we entertain this behavior. We tell ourselves that they will never disappear again, it was just one time thing until they disappear again.Maya Angelou said "When someone show you who they are believe them the first time". There is a reason God closed that door for you why open it again? Ladies what are we afraid of? We need to be in control of the situation. We need to tell them that they cannot treat us like that. We don't need to make us feel insecure with their TDA. We are not the problem, they are. They probably did you a favor when they disappeared. They were not man enough to step up and tell you what is going on. We all need someone who can respect us and tell us what is going on. We need someone who is a man enough to be worthy of you and be brave to tell you whether they like you or not.

Ladies we are all beautiful. Your Adam (the right man) won't disappear he will be there with you and for you. And if his a  man enough he will come to you and tell you that its not working. So when one pulls TDA on you let them go, they do not need to have free rent in your head. His not a man his a boy.